Pardon me if I use my blog like a private journal. I am learning why I sew for others and I am coming up with rules on when I will sew for others in the future. (Spoiler alert: this is all about control)
Lois K- thank you for sharing your story in the comments to my last post!
Number One Thing is "what's in it for me?"
Today I am finishing the sequin dress for Laura. The minute I saw the fabric, I thought "I WANT TO SEW THIS FABRIC! But Lordie, I would NEVER wear it. So, Laura's enthusiasm and the bargain price was all I needed to take on this project. (by the way, the final step is hand-sewing sequins to cover over the seams. It's mindless sewing you can do while watching oodles of TV. Just quadruple the amount of time you think it will take. But that is a lesson I seem to find in many, many projects! :)
Looking back over other things I've sewn for other people ... what was in it for me? Well, I felt very happy to be sewing a present instead of shopping in a crowded mall. Once I sewed because I was otherwise helpless to relieve someone's suffering; I sewed a charmeuse silk sleepshirt for Laura as she recovered from a tonsillectomy. I wouldn't wish a tonsillectomy on my worst enemy.
Applying these reflections to the project on deck?
What's in it for me? This project was to be all about fitting. I am very enthusiastic about learning how to fit any body. My subject is petite, short-waisted and FBA city. I know how hard it is to find clothes that fit for most of us. For these particular proportions, nothing will work except separates and stretch fabrics.
I really wanted a chance to test my fitting skills and construct a flattering woven dress.
So you see, I am not particularly altruisitic. I don't sew for others if there is nothing in it for me.
Then there is the whole control issue; I love to be in control. Sewing is the perfect hobby if you love to control things. I haven't been able to get measurements or fittings scheduled on my terms so that lack of control is, well, it's freaking me out! I am sure that non control-freaks don't suffer from this type of anxiety. Oh well!
To be fair, most people don't know what is involved in a sewing a fine garment. They would generally be shocked at how time consuming it is, and how much sacrifice is involved when a person has a fulltime job, commitments with family and friends, not to mention personal sewing projects that are being delayed. Heck I spent yesterday doing our taxes. Life doesn't leave a lot of leeway, does it?
There is something else I think most people don't realize about sewing. It's not all fun and games. We hit snags, we make mistakes that must be picked apart and re-done. Worst of all is when we hit the wall. Almost every project has a moment when I feel like I AM TIRED OF THIS! I JUST WANT IT TO BE DONE! That's how it is for me. It is a lot easier to endure that feeling when I am sewing something for myself. Obviously, the rewards of sewing are tremendous or I would not be so passionate about sewing.
Before the end of April, I will be working with a very reliable "customer". She doesn't mind multiple fittings, she is quick to decide on fabric, style, and techniques. She is patient with my little tantrums. She wears it even if it's not perfect. We know who "she" is ..... (me!)
Is it like this for you?
edited to add: I forgot to add a label to this post, so I edited and re-published it.
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